Forgive and Love Again.

Couples Counseling Could Save Your Relationship.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

That’s a BIG question – and it’s not one we, or any counselor, should make for you. But, it is THE question that brings people into couples counseling… despite all we’ve been through, do I stay in this relationship, or do I go? Couples counseling can help you and your partner/spouse find that clarity and take the steps you need to fix the relationship. We’ll regain trust, rebuild positive communiation and strenghten your attachment.

Marriage Counseling / Relationship counseling  can help you overcome the emotional and behavioral patterns that keep you and your partner stuck. We use the science of love to help you heal from past emotional injuries, rapidly reduce conflict, rebuild trust, and strengthen the bonds of love between you.

Can You Help?

Yes. Relationship counseling is at the heart of what we do at Transformative Growth Counseling. Our counselors, interns and psychologists undergo rigiouros coursework and live training in emotionally focused couples therapy and Gottman Method. We know that there are challenges that may seem impossible to face, but together, we will face them head on and find ways to strenghten your bond, forgive, trust and love again.

In the event the relationship can not be saved, we are prepared to help you end the relationship, peacefully, calmly, and respectfully. TGC has a 100% success rate in ending relationships peacefully. Meaning 100% of our couples who stay engaged in counseling from start to finsih (the attempt to fix the relationship, to the decision to part ways, to the date of  seperation) have ended ambicably or better.


U.S. Marriages That End in Divorce.


Success Rate of Emotionally Focused Couples Counseling

Number of Years Before an Average Couple Gets Help

Top Three Signs That Your Relationship Needs Help:


Cheating, Lying or Betrayal.

If you can’t trust the words your partner says, it’s hard to trust the love they show. Honesty is a MUST in relationships. If you’re not being honest to your loved one, you’re not being honest to yourself. Honoring the relationship is not possible iwth honesty.


If you can’t trust they will be around for you, due to past hurts, addictions or threatening to divorce, being emotionally vulnerable is not only difficult to do, it might cause further harm to attempt before the relationship is repaired.

High-Conflict Fighting & Frequent "Shut Downs".

The number one predictor of divorce is partner withdrawl. If you’re having fights that end with both of you walking away in anger and resentment, it’s time to get help.

Forgive and Love Again.

Emotionally Focused Attachment Counseling Can Help!

As clinical therapists we specialize in helping couples transform their relationships, with marriage counseling and couples counseling in Naperville, Chicago and Rochelle.   We use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which has up to a 90% success rate in couples who complete the EFT counseling steps. Couples counseling can support you in creating a closer bond with your partner, improve your communication skills, help heal past pains, reignite your sexual life, and so much more! Our attachment-based marriage counseling and couple counseling services have been covered in: Boston Herald, The Miami Herald, ABC, Wallstreet Select, and the Kansas City Star! We welcome helping those from the LGBTQIA, Kink, Open/Poly & Christian communities.

How Couples Counseling Can Help YOU!

Marriage Counseling / Couples counseling  can help you overcome the emotional and behavioral pattern that keep you and your partner stuck. We use the science of love to help you heal from past emotional injuries, rapidly reduce conflict, rebuild trust, and strengthen the bonds of love between you.

(If you want to learn more about attachment science and how we use it in marriage and couples counseling, this link provides an excellent 11 minute video on EFT and attachment to humans, throughout the life-span: Attachment and Relationship Repair)

If your relationship is struggling with any of the issues below – we should talk!

  • Infidelity – 50% of couples in counseling are facing this issue. It is the number one reason people come to counseling. You don’t have to be alone in this journey; we can help you overcome infidelity and grow stronger from it!
  • Communication problems.
  • Trust.
  • Conflict.
  • Fears of abandonment.
  • Sexual functioning & desire
  • Issues in Poly / Open/ swinger relationships. 
  • Kink
  • LGBTQIA-specific issues
  • Feelings of “Should we stay together?” 
  • Anger
  • Jealousy
  • Manipulation
  • Substance Abuse
  • Lying & Betrayal
  • Trauma/PTSD

What are the steps of success in EFT Couples Counseling? (mentioned above)

In clinical experiments, EFT has a 90% success rate, for couples who follow through with the steps below:

– Attending and engaging in your sessions regularly and through all eight steps within EFT. Depending on the severity, intensity and duration of the issues, the couple is experiencing, this may take 12 sessions, or a year. Every marriage or relationship is different; and your counselor will give you feedback on your treatment plan and expected time to resolve your struggles in counseling.  If you’ve already decided you’re done with the relationship and want to part ways, couples therapy will not likely be helpful.

– Ending all affairs. If there’s an ongoing affair, the couple can not move forward.

– Completing in-between session couples’ work.

The bigger threat to your relationship is inaction. Regardless of what therapy approach is used, we know what doesn’t work: continuing to fight, criticize each other, or withdraw to avoid addressing the turmoil, anger and hurt you’re both likely holding on to.

All too often we see couples struggle with coming in for the help they need; hoping something will change naturally or with more conflict, people tend to hold out before seeking help. We encourage you to call or email us to get more information how therapy can help your specific couples issues, before it’s too late. The sooner you seek help, the higher the success rate you will have in counseling.

Do We Have To Be Married to Participate?
No. You don’t have to be married to participate in couples counseling, and often times it is extremely beneficial to engage in couples counseling if your relationship is experiencing problems and you and your partner are planning on getting married. We are an open and affirming practice who welcomes all Couples – Straight, LGBT, Monoamous, Poly, Kink and Alternative – whatever your relationship type, you’re welcome here!
Additional Benefits of Couples Counseling
Other important benefits of seeking treatment include learning how to communicate with your significant other without resentment, and you both will learn how to deal with issues head on with one another.
Do You Provide Counseling For LGBT Couples?
Yes we do. Transformative Growth is a safe, LGBT friendly counseling center. We provide excellent care for people of all walks of life, regardless of sexual orientation.

Your Relationship Matters.

If your relationship is struggling and you need help, let’s talk.

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