Our Experts Will Help You Master the Art of the "Non-Traditional" Relationship
Poly – Kink – Non-Monagomy
What Kinds of Non-Traditional Relationships Do You Help?
We help people with all types of relationships. From relationships that are open, poly or non-monogamous, to swinger, kink and non-sexual, romantic relationships.
For cases that are not kink/poly/non-traditional, but are related to sexual functioning, disorder or sexually disordered behaviors, our therapists are trained and ready to help you, every step of the way – with compassion and respect for your process of growth, healing, and self discovery.
I’m Worried About Being Judged…..
Our clinicans and experts not only have extensive training in poly, kink and non-traditional relationships, many of our therapists and interns also have lived experiance in their own “non-traditional” relationships. We understand and support that love and relationships have lots of different structures. Love is Love – we don’t discrminate how you choose to define your consentual love other adults.
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Approx. Number of People Identifying as being in a "Non-Traditional" Relationship
What is Kink?
Great question! Kink is a broad term used to describe sex outside the “norm”. Norm is subjective; what is “kinky” to one person, may be “vanilla” (non-kinky) to another person. Commonly when people refer to being “kinky” they are referring to sexual activities that may include: BDSM, fetishes such as feet, role playing, engaging in sex with other couples, power play between a “top” and a “bottom” – you name it, there’s lots of ways couples and individuals, have “kinky” fun. Kink is not pathology or illness; it’s role playing, experimenting and having sexual fun, and sharing connection, with a trusted partner.
Do Poly / Open Relationships Really Work Though? Isn't This Just a Form of Cheating?
Poly and open relationships can and do work. It takes a LOT of communication, honesty and is just as much work (if not more) than being in a monogamous relationship. We highly recommend to our poly and open couples that they educate themselves (or we can help with education in session) with the best known writings and research on open relationships. Those books include: The Ethical Slut; Topping; Bottoming; More than Two; Polyamory in the 21st Century. These books serve as excellent handbooks for handling everything from jealousy, to what to do when one person has more suitors/dates than the other.
This is not a form of cheating. Cheating is where a person acts in an inappropriate sexual way, to someone else, without the permission or knowledge of all parties. So that your friend who has trysts with strangers at the bar, who says that they are poly, but the spouse doesn’t know it yet, isn’t actually “Poly” or “open”; that is plain cheating. Conversely. when couples discuss and decide together that they may see/love/have sex with other people, they communicate consent for this to happen and under what circumstances. Monogamous, Poly or Open – every couple is different and has their own set of rules. Poly and open relationships are no different.
Some define Poly / Open / Non-Monogamy as a relationship orientation – just like sexual or gender orientation. It’s often times something people just feel internally – the desire to be polyamorous is, at it’s root, the desire to love more than one person. And, is that so odd, really at the end of the day? Most of us love more than one. More than one kid, more than one parent, more than one friend. And, some people decide to take that loving more than one, to apply in their romantic or sexual relationships as well.
I Have Many More Questions - HELP!?
Signs Your Open Relationship Needs Help
Did your partner break the rules?
Do You or Your Partner Have Jealousy Issues?
Are You Wanting to Explore Opening Your Relationship?
Pump the brakes! We believe opening relationships up to more love, sex or fun is great – but like any big life decision, let’s plan that what that looks like, before taking a leap into the unknown. It can be scary to tell your partner you want an open relationship and define what everyone is comfortable with; we can help you start the conversation and maintain it, successfully.